Women over 50 know our age related changes, oh too well, and how they make us feel. My blog today is about our men, and how they perceive us...from sex--to how long it takes us to get ready! I got them to open up, about how our age related issues affect them.
I asked them, "What do you want us to know about being in a relationship with a woman over 50."
The man's prespective:
She's Hot, she's cold, she's hot, she's cold, she's hot, she's cold - We know that hot flashes are difficult for you. As men, we are conditioned to be able to fix or control situations. We feel helpless when we see you struggling, and know there is nothing more we can do, aside from turning the AC temperature down.
I replied:
"Menopause causes mood swings, too-how do you handle those?" He said, "I scurry away...like a cock roach when the lights turn on. I laughed, and asked him to elaborate. He said, "As men, I don't think we're equipped to handle the changes in mood, so I've found; backing away and giving my woman space, is the best thing I can do."
Likes and dislikes--
We like it when you take the time to look nice for us- Ok, this guy actually said, "We don't like it when you look like a frump." What we do like--is that you take care of yourself. Sweats, and baggy clothes are okay once in a while, but we like it when you put a little extra effort into looking great for us.
Ladies...Just because you're over a certain age, or married many years, it doesn't mean you stop caring about the way you look. Remember, our men are visual creatures!
On the flip side, another gentleman shared with me:
We wish you could get ready a little faster. Do you really have to take 1 1/2 hours to get ready to go somewhere? If we are just going out for burgers, can you you do the quick 5 minute make-up vs. the 1 1/2 hour, please?
Your confidence is sexy- We notice you're more confident now, in your 50's. Nothing is sexier than a woman who can walk, talk and be confident in her own skin.
and on the topic of sex...
We appreciate when YOU initiate sex- There is no greater aphrodisiac and ego-boost than knowing that someone desires you enough to make the first move.
We don't expect you to look they way you did in your 30's - But, we DO like you to OWN the age you are. It's about pride, and beauty, that by this time is far more than skin deep.
So, there you have it! Men do see the things we struggle with, and while at times, they feel helpless to know how to handle certain aspects of what we go through; they are still very much attracted to us, proud of us, and love us, at all ages!
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